I'm not qualified to "Build a Bear"!

So I have recently found myself in multiple conversations about my relationship status, which is single. On a work trip a co-worker asked if I was married, my response was no, she asked why not and assured me that "someday it will happen, someday you'll find that perfect guy!" Oh geez, thanks for the vote of confidence!

Next a conversation with one of my guy friends, but the best quote I heard was from my friend Ash. "I wish I could just build a guy like you do at Build-A-Bear!" This started me thinking, because of course I have spent way too much money in Build-A-Bear in the past.

Now it has been a while since I've been to Build-A-Bear but if I remember correctly you start the bear creation process by selecting the perfect bear, and then picking out his heart, make a "wish" for your bear and then hope it all comes true.

If I really think about it, this isn't really all that different from how we date. We find a guy or gal that we find attractive and has a heart that we like and then we place hopes and dreams on the relationship and hope that it will work. At some point someone sees something that they don't like and we are back to the bear factory.

I have multiple hand crafted bears under my bed, or in my room that I thought were perfect when I made them. I thought that they were everything that I wanted. But sure enough I was wrong. Why? Maybe a bit because I was a kid and am older and wiser now. I could also argue that I will be older and wiser when I am 50 and will I want to throw my 28yr old bear under the bed like I did my 16yr old bear?

I guess this leaves me only one suitable option, I can trust God to build me a man that He knows will fit and I can forget about trying to fit a man into my mold or shape him into the man I want or need him to be. And I guess this leads back to that conversation with my guy friend, patience...I have to continue to learn and exercise patience! No more bear building, because let's be real, I'm just not qualified!